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The Aphorism Salon – On The Wrong Track?
I’m currently with the only five pillar company I’ve come across in seven years of networking. Yet it took me months to bring the first of my affiliate distributors into this great company. Why so long?
John’s aphorism explains it well. I was on the wrong track with some really bad habits, gathered over those misguided years, developed through misplaced trust and a basic misunderstanding of the industry. Every occasion and every conversation I had was wrong. I was “arriving at the wrong station” again and again. I was on the wrong track and that track was my bad prior training and habits.
What bad habits? Here’s the short list:
1. Selling - Yes, SELLING – my MLM opportunity.
Big, huge, monumental and deadly mistake. As my mentor rightly says: “This is not a sales business, but a relationship business. No one wants to be sold.”
2. Buying MLM leads.
Passed off as fresh MLM leads they were expensive and useless. The only ones who benefited were my upline who were supposed to be helping me build OUR business! Just imagine their cynicism: knowing that new affiliates on average recruit only 2.7 new distributors, they figured out a way to make money on the backs of newbies by selling useless leads. The money paid to the leads company got shared. A kick-back. Buying and selling leads is a scam. Worse, it does not lead to duplication, the backbone of any true MLM. It breeds only mistrust and a culture of cynical cannibalism.
3. Making a list of friends and family and practicing “the 3-foot rule”.
I targeted everyone I knew and then went after everyone that came near me. I took so much heat that I became gun-shy. So gun-shy that in my current company, I was reluctant at first to talk to anyone at all even though I believed and knew the value of the company and the opportunity.
I had to learn NOT to talk to just anyone but to seek out the volunteers, those who fit us, our company, our culture and our ‘family’. I learned to screen prospects the way I learned to screen prospective tenants in my 4-family house. I began looking for people I could live and prosper with.
How do you feel about that?
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The Aphorism Salon – Boring Your Prospects?
“NEVER FAIL TO KNOW THAT IF YOU ARE DOING ALL THE TALKING YOU’RE BORING SOMEBODY”
WoW! Do I love this gem from John’s window.
When I first got into Network Marketing I did not meet with any success worth considering. And I couldn’t figure out why. After all, I came with some sales experience. I knew how to talk a good game. Slowly I came to real-ize I had a load of bad habits – worse, unproductive and undermining habits that just didn’t work in MLM. One of them was talking.
Another was not listening. Enough.
We have all heard that Network Marketing is a Relationship business but how many of us have also heard that it is NOT a sales business? There is nothing to sell and everything to lose if it is approached that way, namely, as a conventional business.
You see, most of us got into this gig because we didn’t like the way conventional businesses are run or what they make us do or feel. It’s a whole new order of things here but if we bring some conventional ideas and habits along with us into Networking, well, what have we made of it?
Our conscious mind may be telling us we’re our own bosses now, finally, but are we allowing our unconscious habit-mind to undo us?
Pay ATTENTION to your actions. Cut that talking time in half and double the listening time.
This Prospecting thing is a process and you must differentiate yourself from everyone else out there shouting about their deals. So LISTEN.
You are a Leader, someone your prospect can plug into. Don’t be focused on jerking them into your deal. Tell them stuff they didn’t know but show them you have the answers, or at the very least, can get the answers for them.
But you’ll NEVER be able to find those answers if you don’t know the questions and there’s only one way to get those. By LISTENING.
How do you feel about that?
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The Aphorism Salon – Create Your Happiness
“SOME PURSUE HAPPINESS, OTHERS CREATE IT.”
This one’s short and sweet. And needs little explanation. 
As Abraham Lincoln so famously said, “Happiness is a decision.”
Have you ever tried to grab a fistful of water? It’s a bit like chasing Happiness. Or Money. The hotter the pursuit, the better the eluding done by the pursued.
Makes sense, doesn’t it?
Better hunters know that instead of expending energy chasing, it’s a better strategy to stay put and create a lure to attract the desired object. And this is where your Intention and Attention come in.
Create your Happiness by determining and isolating in your Heart your Passion – an “inside job” if there ever was one. Then put your Attention on it by feeding it Action ”out there” in the Field of Play. Not Activity but Action – laser-like, focused and determined Action with the desired Outcome already in Mind.
That’s getting your Heart’s Passionate Intent and your Mind’s Quiet Attention working in a reciprocating loop creating your Joy and Happiness.
How do you feel about that? Happy, Appreciative, Skeptical?
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Uncovering Your Passion
When faced with the question, “What is your life’s passion?”, many are stumped.
So many of us at one time or another have fallen into jobs or careers because of either an interest – but not a passion – or worse, others’ expectations of us.
The results? “I hate my job. I hate my life.”
Here are six simple questions to help bring you to that special place where you might just be a bit afraid to look. You probably have heard one or two of them but grab a hot drink and let these isolate what it is that lights your fire, floats your boat or just won’t leave you alone! (Don’t rush through this no matter how anxious it may make you. The best answers are the ones you may have to dig a little to get. Or just wait silently for as they bubble to the surface.)
- You have all the money you could possibly dream of so what would you do now since money is not part of the picture?
- If failure & all accompanying fears were also removed from the picture, what would you do?
- When you have some free time what do you enjoy doing most?
- What are you so good at doing that people seek you out in order to get some advice?
- My favorite: Determine the common thread between your favorite TV shows & movies and the kinds of books & magazines you love to read.
- What – if anything – do you enjoy doing in your current work or job?
Your passion has to be a bit like religion: it has to give or highlight a purpose that you will not easily surrender, if at all, and that you could never imagine living without. Or it just isn’t a passion.
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The Aphorism Salon – Make Peace With Your Past . . .
There is a controversy of sorts on one of the better networking sites right now. One of the regular contributors to the site posted a statement in the forum accusing a networking guru of some unscrupulous activity, without naming names or providing proof of the allegations. Many of the comments have been lauding the accuser’s actions, none of which are substantiated, and calling the accuser courageous for “outing” the guru.
I prefer not to get into the particulars since they don’t add anything to my purpose for writing about this episode. However, I will mention this fact: the person who posted the unfounded allegations was at one time in this particular guru’s downline, which probably explains quite a lot. 
Attraction Marketing, all the rage in networking, comes down to this: You attract what You project. Put on a happy, positive face; voice a grateful and respectful message and you’ll attract those who you’ll want to work with, those who see life as ‘giving before getting’, and those who approach it as a vast sea of pure potential that can be molded to their desires by first aligning their own hearts and minds and then masterminding with yours and others in your business or on your team.
Or you and they can go through life bitter and resentful, attracting malcontents hellbent on pulling down instead of building up lives. As usual John’s salon had an aphorism in its window that could serve us all:
MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR PAST SO IT WON’T SCREW UP YOUR PRESENT.
The choice as always is yours. We are all indeed self-made. Be one of the successful ones who will proudly admit personal power, accepting the accolades and assuming the responsibilities.
How do you feel about that?
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A Self-Made Admission
“We are all self-made.
But only the successful will admit it.”
– Earl Nightingale
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Inner Heart, Outer Mind
A “set definite objective” must be established if you are to accomplish anything in a big way. So says the classic of self-development, THE MESSAGE OF A MASTER. In my last post I wrote about Ilgar’s insights* regarding this: the role and workings of the human heart and the fickle nature of the human mind.
Why a “set definite objective”? According to THE MESSAGE there are reasons.
The First: The Inner Mind is the “positive pole” of a human being; the Outer Mind is the “negative”. A (+) and a (-) are needed to complete a circuit or a circle anywhere in nature or there would be NO motion, NO activity, thus NO experience. Welcome to this side of the speed of light and the Universe of Duality!
In everything that is obedient to the Law, the “Positive dominates & governs and the Negative serves. But humanity reverses this. It permits The Outer Mind to direct and govern without instruction” and so reports ‘bad news’: strife, war, obstacles, competition, “impossibilities”.
Why does it do so? Because of the absence of direction. The Outer Mind is left to wander aimlessly without PURPOSE, accepting everything and without the ability to differentiate.
The Second: “People who have no “set definite objective” are tuning in to everything and getting nothing. They are at the mercy of millions of conflicting thoughts and their lives are full of distress.” On the other hand, “People who have a “set definite objective” deliberately tune in to ONE THING. If it is money, they get it. A position, they get it. Nothing that such people tune in to can be withheld.”
The Third: “When you set your Inner Mind on anything, you transfer a portion of your Life Force to that thing or it could never be drawn to you.” The intensity of your desire/INTENTION governs the power with which the force is directed. This is part of the so-called price that must be paid.
(This is the INTENTION part of my equation INTENTION + ATTENTION = ATTRACTION.)
Continue to nourish the one Thing by holding it in your Inner Mind -> PAY INTENTION – and by taking focused, directed Action -> PAY ATTENTION your desire will manifest.
So if you are desiring or PAYING INTENTION to several objectives, entertaining more than one dream at a time, setting more than one goal, having more than one “set definite objective”, your force becomes divided and each of the several desires/dreams/goals/intentions receives an insufficient, weak stimulus. Not enough to ATTRACT any of them. Manifestation will be delayed if not altogether thwarted.
But all this can be reversed.
*Before we address that, please note that what THE MESSAGE calls the Inner Mind, Ilgar called the Heart, and the Outer Mind he simply called the Mind or Brain. You might want to read these posts again to help make this clearer: Set Your Heart & Your Mind Will Follow and Attraction = Intention + Attention.
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Set Your Heart & Your Mind Will Follow
I used to be a teacher and consultant. Refined it to the point where my only clients were foreign-born entrepreneurs who hungered for better communication skills in English.
One client, a Turk named Ilgar, became a personal friend. And taught me more about networking than I had ever learned until I met my current mentor who echoed what Ilgar shared with me one day.
Most don’t know much about Turks, so I’ll tell you this: they are passionate. Originally from Mongolia, their ancestors centuries ago were drawn westward across the steppes of Asia. Their culture is a unique combination of Western achievement and Eastern philosophy.
Allow me to illustrate:
“Ilgar, what’s up with you Turks? Why are you so crazy passionate?”
Laughing and then turning serious, Ilgar told me, “Let me explain how we Turks think and feel. We are very emotional people. Everything starts with Heart and then goes to Brain. Heart is the hard part to figure out. Brain is easy. But we don’t trust it because Brain can be trained . . . and tricked. But Heart, Heart is a personal problem”, as he lightly tapped the center of his chest.
“When Heart is set, Brain can work very easily. It can go on because it sees things in black and white, which way to go. So Heart is the personal problem and challenge. And answer.”
I’ve heard many, many times the expression a “passionate mind” and realize now that this was the rabbit hole I fell down when I tried and failed in my first three multi-level marketing companies. I was confusing the activities of my heart and my mind. I was feeling with my mind and thinking with my heart.
