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Attention is NOT Concentration
Attention is not the same as Concentration. The latter is exclusion; the former, total awareness, excludes Nothing.
If you think about it, it is pretty obvious that most of us are not aware, not only of what we’re talking about but of the colors and shapes around us, our immediate environment, the people we call clients or prospects for our business.
Most likely it is because we are so wrapped up in ourselves, with our own little problems, ideas, ambitions, pleasures and pusuits that we cannot be aware.
And how we talk about building relations with our clients!
Are you aware of how this makes you feel?
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There is Only You & Your Relationship With Others
“So you see that you cannot depend upon anybody. There is no guide, no teacher, no authority. There is only you – your relationship with others and with the world – there is nothing else. When you realize this, it either brings great despair, from which comes cynicism and bitterness, or, in facing the fact that you and nobody else are responsible for the world and for yourself, for what you think, what you feel, how you act, all self-pity goes. Normally we thrive on blaming others, which is a form of self-pity.”
How does that make you feel? Do you find yourself blaming others for your lack of success?
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The Aphorism Salon – On The Wrong Track?
I’m currently with the only five pillar company I’ve come across in seven years of networking. Yet it took me months to bring the first of my affiliate distributors into this great company. Why so long?
John’s aphorism explains it well. I was on the wrong track with some really bad habits, gathered over those misguided years, developed through misplaced trust and a basic misunderstanding of the industry. Every occasion and every conversation I had was wrong. I was “arriving at the wrong station” again and again. I was on the wrong track and that track was my bad prior training and habits.
What bad habits? Here’s the short list:
1. Selling - Yes, SELLING – my MLM opportunity.
Big, huge, monumental and deadly mistake. As my mentor rightly says: “This is not a sales business, but a relationship business. No one wants to be sold.”
2. Buying MLM leads.
Passed off as fresh MLM leads they were expensive and useless. The only ones who benefited were my upline who were supposed to be helping me build OUR business! Just imagine their cynicism: knowing that new affiliates on average recruit only 2.7 new distributors, they figured out a way to make money on the backs of newbies by selling useless leads. The money paid to the leads company got shared. A kick-back. Buying and selling leads is a scam. Worse, it does not lead to duplication, the backbone of any true MLM. It breeds only mistrust and a culture of cynical cannibalism.
3. Making a list of friends and family and practicing “the 3-foot rule”.
I targeted everyone I knew and then went after everyone that came near me. I took so much heat that I became gun-shy. So gun-shy that in my current company, I was reluctant at first to talk to anyone at all even though I believed and knew the value of the company and the opportunity.
I had to learn NOT to talk to just anyone but to seek out the volunteers, those who fit us, our company, our culture and our ‘family’. I learned to screen prospects the way I learned to screen prospective tenants in my 4-family house. I began looking for people I could live and prosper with.
How do you feel about that?
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The Aphorism Salon – Boring Your Prospects?
“NEVER FAIL TO KNOW THAT IF YOU ARE DOING ALL THE TALKING YOU’RE BORING SOMEBODY”
WoW! Do I love this gem from John’s window.
When I first got into Network Marketing I did not meet with any success worth considering. And I couldn’t figure out why. After all, I came with some sales experience. I knew how to talk a good game. Slowly I came to real-ize I had a load of bad habits – worse, unproductive and undermining habits that just didn’t work in MLM. One of them was talking.
Another was not listening. Enough.
We have all heard that Network Marketing is a Relationship business but how many of us have also heard that it is NOT a sales business? There is nothing to sell and everything to lose if it is approached that way, namely, as a conventional business.
You see, most of us got into this gig because we didn’t like the way conventional businesses are run or what they make us do or feel. It’s a whole new order of things here but if we bring some conventional ideas and habits along with us into Networking, well, what have we made of it?
Our conscious mind may be telling us we’re our own bosses now, finally, but are we allowing our unconscious habit-mind to undo us?
Pay ATTENTION to your actions. Cut that talking time in half and double the listening time.
This Prospecting thing is a process and you must differentiate yourself from everyone else out there shouting about their deals. So LISTEN.
You are a Leader, someone your prospect can plug into. Don’t be focused on jerking them into your deal. Tell them stuff they didn’t know but show them you have the answers, or at the very least, can get the answers for them.
But you’ll NEVER be able to find those answers if you don’t know the questions and there’s only one way to get those. By LISTENING.
How do you feel about that?
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The Aphorism Salon – Make Peace With Your Past . . .
There is a controversy of sorts on one of the better networking sites right now. One of the regular contributors to the site posted a statement in the forum accusing a networking guru of some unscrupulous activity, without naming names or providing proof of the allegations. Many of the comments have been lauding the accuser’s actions, none of which are substantiated, and calling the accuser courageous for “outing” the guru.
I prefer not to get into the particulars since they don’t add anything to my purpose for writing about this episode. However, I will mention this fact: the person who posted the unfounded allegations was at one time in this particular guru’s downline, which probably explains quite a lot. 
Attraction Marketing, all the rage in networking, comes down to this: You attract what You project. Put on a happy, positive face; voice a grateful and respectful message and you’ll attract those who you’ll want to work with, those who see life as ‘giving before getting’, and those who approach it as a vast sea of pure potential that can be molded to their desires by first aligning their own hearts and minds and then masterminding with yours and others in your business or on your team.
Or you and they can go through life bitter and resentful, attracting malcontents hellbent on pulling down instead of building up lives. As usual John’s salon had an aphorism in its window that could serve us all:
MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR PAST SO IT WON’T SCREW UP YOUR PRESENT.
The choice as always is yours. We are all indeed self-made. Be one of the successful ones who will proudly admit personal power, accepting the accolades and assuming the responsibilities.
How do you feel about that?
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The Aphorism Salon – Pay Attention
The trouble with most people is they don’t listen – TO THEMSELVES! They know Get-Rich-Quick schemes are exactly that, yet they continue to join and support them. It’s the “Something for Nothing” mentality.
Same thing goes for the Law of Attraction. The general expectation, after watching the movie THE SECRET, was to <POP> a thought in one’s head and voila! One’s Heart’s Desire would be manifest. Our Physical Universe just doesn’t work like that. While it’s true that your outer
world will shape itself to the inner world created by your thoughts, some deliberate action is required. And that’s what I’d like to address. Especially the idea of paying attention.
You see, there really is “Nothing for Nothing” or, “Everything has its Price”. And sometimes we pay for something in a currency other than money. We can pay in how and to what we bend our minds.
The Latin verb attendere is the root of our word attention, and it means “to turn or bend one’s mind towards“. Giving or paying attention is the clear, decisive act by the mind of taking possession of someone or something chosen out of several possibilities. ‘Paying attention’ conversely suggests ignoring some possibilities in order to deal effectively with the chosen object of your attention. It also suggests conscious control.
To purposefully attract into your life what you desire, you’d best get a handle on your attention. So I’ll ask you this: How much TV do you watch? What movies? Oh, just the news. I see, just enough to shake your confidence and put a little bit of fear into you. A dose of reality, huh?
The photo above shows John’s whiteboard in his salon. I’ve written about it before. This week’s aphorism hit me, as usual, right in the solar plexus. Interpretation: Life isn’t what you see on TV or hear on the radio or read in a newspaper, magazine or novel. Life is what you pay attention to, and consequently, attract.
If you’re not attracting what you desire, pay attention to what you’re paying attention to.
Among the things that don’t deserve your attention are: TV & radio, especially the news; newspapers; advertisements & billboards; shopping malls; people you have no interest in; excessive noise; driving; spam Email and junk mail; Self-criticism; and people telling you your dream of owning your life is not real.
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Money-When It Is Profane Part 4
In business, in a relationship, in any aspect of life, when someone focuses ONLY on money – removing all Life & Energy from their Intent and focus of Attention – they are committing an act of profanity.
Money = Energy = Life
This equation, and more importantly the understanding of it, is what makes Money sacred.
Abrogate the implicit wisdom of it, break the equation, and Money becomes profane.
We are each of us born with specific talents that we are each responsible for discovering, developing and using to solve problems for ourselves and others. In other words, TO SERVE.
And in return for your service to yourself and others, in return for loving others as you love yourself, you receive more Life or Energy – in the form of Money.
Isolate anything too much and it becomes profane.
Commit any act to acquire Money only, without regard to replenishment, and it is a Crime.
Want more Money? Serve more people. Solve more problems.
Want millions? Serve millions. Solve the problems of millions.
Take their Money without serving and you’re a Criminal.
Too simplistic? Go back & read it again . . .
. . . in return for your service to yourself and others, in return for loving others as you love yourself, you receive more Life or Energy – in the form of Money.
How do you feel about that?
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Don’t Sell – SERVE
I went to a networking event last night that was advertised as a Social Media event. Little did I realize it would be the perfect Real-ization of what happens in that virtual online world.
When the presenter – a very personable man – kept trying to impress the audience of 50 with the high Google rankings his 40 websites consistently achieve, I had the feeling I get when reading invitations to friendship on Facebook. Not to disparage Facebook but to highlight how it’s being used.
You’ve seen them: “Thank you for adding me as a friend. I look forward to sharing some ideas on networking and marketing with you.” Shortly thereafter you’re hit with this: “ Here’s my deal. It’s in pre-launch and you’ll be rich by next Thursday ’cause the product is . . . blah, blah, yada, yada . . . and endorsed by . . . “
Last evening’s presenter did just that: after the warm-up and presentation of his top 40 Google hits, he offered his one-on-one services (“not cheap” he called them) to get our websites to the top five rankings in less than a week. And to host our sites as well.
But the biggest disappointment, saved for the end, was what he called “hard networking”. Dividing the group, he had the first 25 stay put while the second 25 rotated giving each of us 1 minute of face-to-face time to make our pitch. Though he didn’t call it that, of course. He called it “relationship building”. In one minute!
Please remember this: 98% of the population DOES NOT like to be sold. I learned this the hard way from my previous failures in networking. It finally registered when I had a way of putting it into context. I had believed, as most of the business population does, that SELLING is what doing business is all about.
Wrong, Wrong, WRONG!
Doing business is knowing and serving people. Don’t sell. Serve.
Beginning and end of story. What put this all into context for me was Success In 10 Steps.
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What’s Your Dream?
Why is a dream so important?
Here’s why: Your dream is your homing device, your beacon. It is the lighthouse that you are traveling toward.
So, what’s your dream? What’s your ‘Why’?
Why, why, why do you desire to be in the extremely rewarding but the not-easy-to-do networking industry? Your ‘Why’ had better be selfish or it’s useless to you. Totally useless.
What’s your dream, your intention and your ‘Why’? What’s going to keep you going through those lonely moments when you feel the big chill of rejection? Again and again.
What’s your dream? What’s your personal development program like?
If you can’t see how this is connected to networking, well, I was in exactly the same boat until my mentors started holding my beacon in front of me, for me to travel toward - and it turned out to be ME.
I was the goal. A fuller, more complete, more confident, more generous and more loving ME.
You must love yourself as you love your neighbor to have any success in networking.
To achieve the abundance and prosperity that is rightfully yours, you must understand and live the correct virtue of selfishness and personal growth. Because no matter how generous you may want to be in the future with your hard-won free time and money, your intention for being in this game has got to be about YOU first. Just like that video you watch before the plane takes off – put on YOUR oxygen mask FIRST before tending to OTHERS.
Cultivate who you are, because “who you are” is what you will project. There is no hiding this. And “who you are” is what will motivate people to go into business with you. People will join YOU not the company.
Cultivate “who you are”. THAT is what owning your life is all about.
My first lesson in discovering my ‘Why’ was found in Success in 10 Steps.
Help yourself to it. It’ll cost you nothing – you could end up owning your life.
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The Ultimate “Secret” Technique for Networking Success
The ultimate technique is really not secret at all. You just haven’t realized it yet.
I mean that literally. You just haven’t made it real – that’s what realize means. As specialize means to make something special, realize means to make something real, something manifest.
Here’s the secret: To own your success, to own your life, learn how to own your mind and its thoughts and images.
Sound simple? You say you’ve heard this before and it makes some sense to you? Then ask yourself this: Are you still watching the soaps and the news, still reading gossip sites and magazines, still surfing the web, playing video games or catching your team’s latest game, all as time-killers?
When you do these things and others like them, you are renting space in your mind to others, giving away your power – and they will never, Never, NEVER care about your success as much as you do. Why would they?
If that’s fully registered, the next question is: “How do I get a handle on the thoughts and images that pop in and out of my mind seemingly uncontrolled by me?”
Here’s the answer: You need to cleanse your apparatus; wipe the mental slate clean as much as this is possible.
And the first step is to turn off the TV & radio, throw out the newspapers and magazines. Start controlling what you are letting enter your mind.
This is obviously easier said than done so ask yourself, “How badly do I want this success?” I don’t mean sitting there, fists and teeth clenched, neck veins bulging, shaking, sweating, and red-faced saying out loud, “I really, really, really, REALLY want success.”
The programming done is deep and has been ongoing for a very long time. It’s called culture, and it’s happened to us all. The media used are insidious and have been developed into more tricks than we’ll ever learn. We’ve all been targeted.
This mental cleansing is not possible alone. You will need a plan and the support of like-minded people who have suffered as you have and who, like you, are consumed by their success.
Believe it or not, they are equally consumed by serving as your mentors.
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